Our\u00a0brains are wired to seek validation from those around us. We\u00a0want to be accepted so that we are safe and protected. Nevertheless, you\u00a0can make a big difference in\u00a0how much your child values their own opinion of themselves and their work. \u2800\u2800\u2800\u2800<\/p>\n Begin by paying attention to\u00a0how you give them feedback.<\/strong><\/p>\n Next time, instead of immediately jumping to praise or even criticism about something your child has done, ASK them questions instead: If your child answers with\u00a0“I don’t’ know”, you can use that as an opportunity to encourage them to self-reflect and think a little bit further about it.\u00a0When we ask our children for their own assessment instead of immediately jumping in with our opinion, we are giving them a\u00a0chance<\/em>\u00a0to self-reflect and self-evaluate. This helps them develop the internal validation, which is\u00a0the most important voice\u00a0to be listening to and nourishing.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" By Nicole Soames (Educational Psychologist) It is important to help your child understand that what THEY think of themselves and their work is way more important than what others think of them. By doing so, we are helping them develop\u00a0internal validation,\u00a0so\u00a0that they stop seeking this elsewhere and from other people. Our\u00a0brains are wired to seek […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":88,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[7,8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1638","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-parenting","category-pre-prep"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sites.bishops.org.za\/bsu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1638","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sites.bishops.org.za\/bsu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sites.bishops.org.za\/bsu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sites.bishops.org.za\/bsu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/88"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sites.bishops.org.za\/bsu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1638"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/sites.bishops.org.za\/bsu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1638\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2729,"href":"https:\/\/sites.bishops.org.za\/bsu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1638\/revisions\/2729"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sites.bishops.org.za\/bsu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1638"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sites.bishops.org.za\/bsu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1638"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sites.bishops.org.za\/bsu\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1638"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/sites.bishops.org.za\/bsu\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/17\/2020\/07\/child-art-300x259-1.jpg\")
By doing so, we are helping them develop\u00a0internal validation,\u00a0<\/em>so\u00a0that they stop seeking this elsewhere and from other people.<\/p>\n
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\n<\/em>\u201cWhat do YOU think you did well?\u201d<\/em>
\n<\/em>\u201cWhat do you think you could have done better?\u201d<\/em>
\n<\/em>\u201cHow did you feel when you were making this and now that you have finished?\u201d<\/em>
\n<\/em>\u201cHow does your work make you feel?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n